Many people think that what’s happening in porn sets a parallel reality to what’s going on in real life. It relays exaggerated and unrealistic standards for what great sex should be like. In fact, it’s only intended to get your attention by creating some weird stuff that rarely happens between two people. While porn could expand your sexual preferences and fantasies, it could also narrow them down. This is because fixating on things that only happen in porn, assuming everybody does them, may end up limiting your sexual experience because you’re too focused on what’s unreal.
The question remains though – what sex expectations are okay to have and what are not?
Her endless moaning
If you’re sexually active you’d know by now that women are not as aroused as those in porn movies. The ones in porn are still actresses and they’re specialized in moaning the entire time to build this unrealistic erotic atmosphere. The intense moans and grunts are for show.
In fact, a study found that 75 percent of women have faked it and they’ll continue to do so if they think you’ll believe it’s their screams of passion.
Too dirty in dirty talk
Some scenes in porn include name-calling, but does that help to make it more erotic? Do men really get off by screaming derogatory names? It’s porn, so the slut-calling remarks are a reminder that she’s a bad girl and that she’s gone wild and everything done to her is fine because she’s not someone to be valued.
On the other hand, the 20 percent of the women that experience extreme dirty talk didn’t like it. It’s not surprising, really. Real people are not fond of being sexually derided and most women don’t like being called a whore while you’re doing the deed.
Double penetration
In a study, it was found that only 3 percent in men and 1 percent in women have tried this. In the real world, it would be extremely uncomfortable or even painful for women. Not to mention too messy, awkward and emotionally complicated.
Money shot
Two thirds of people may have done this act in real life, but it greatly differs on how women feel about it. While women in porn giddily offer their faces for the money shot, women in real life are not very fond to the idea of men finishing on her face or her mouth.
The guy is instantly ready
You never see a guy in porn flushing out his penis unready. A woman strips naked and he’s instantly hard. Just like that. In reality, it is not that instant and when you compare yourself to the porn guys, you might feel a little embarrassed because you’re taking a bit more time.
In a study, it was revealed that the more a guy watches porn, the more he’s likely to feel insecure about the size of his manhood or his capacity to have a full erection.
